What a Month!! News!

Yes, I am still here.... It has been a full month since I have blogged. I had so many planned blogs for last month, but every time I started to write, I couldn't put anything into words.

The one thing that has been constantly running through my mind is this conference that I went to in February. My sister in law found it, and sent me to it. It is "Choose Joy: Surviving Infertility & Adoption". It was so amazing to meet this group of women that were involved in putting this event together. It was equally amazing to meet all the women that joined from all over San Diego and Orange County. I wish I could tell you all about the whole event. I WILL say, if you are on a journey of infertility or adoption, you MUST go to this conference next year (I am assuming they are going to do it again, as well as it turned out).

There was one session that I went to that day that just blessed me! The woman's name who spoke, was Rachel Goode. You can read her blog, Heirs With Christ. I have not dug into it yet, only read a couple posts. But I will be. I loved listening to her with her strong, Southern accent (I think Alabama?). Her session was titled "God's Heart for the Hurting; Waiting Hurts, Waiting Perfects." Another reason I loved her session was her "19 points"! I LOVE taking notes, and I love when speakers speak with that in mind. Anyway... the "meat of the session":




You do not know if you will get what you are praying for: Ephesians 3:20 says that God will "accomplish infinitely more then we might ask or think."

God's timing is different and mysterious, yet it is perfect! II Peter 3:9 says Despite what we think, God is not being slow, He is being patient for our sake. Making sure we are ready for his gift.

Plan "A" did NOT fail. Everything that happens is God's "Plan A". We may be on our "Plan Q" but God is checking each step off his list still on "Plan A". I LOVE THIS!!

I was going to say this is my favorite lesson from that day, but they were all amazing. God's mercy is what keeps him from revealing his plan and purpose. We would not be able to comprehend the vast "tapestry" (AWESOME analogy from Rachel) that is His plan. Our lives, and this one situation are just a TINY portion of the BACK of this beautiful tapestry. It looks sooo jumbled, but if you see the other side, you see how beautiful that piece is, though it is just a portion.

I learned a lot in this session with Rachel, but I also have felt these things SO strongly, and just not had the right words to put with them. 

I have seen these things play out in our lives one after another. I can remember so many of the MAJOR pains in my life. The feeling of (what I thought was) despair. I think of the minor TIMING "problems" that "ruined my plans". I could go on and on with every one, but I can tell you AT LEAST one good to amazing thing that came out of that pain.

My first memory of "despair" was when my parents, brothers and I moved from California. I was only 7 or 8. I remember the night we said goodbye to my grandparents was the last night we were there. We had the fifth wheel and were staying in the driveway. I was balling my eyes out that night. But I can tell you I am so grateful for that pain. I still am sad for the missed times with family in California, but I am appreciative of EVERY moment I get with them now. I am grateful for the pain that took us out of a home that I knew for a few years and took us to Idaho, creating the AMAZING life that I have now.

I am sooo grateful for the pain of break ups with boyfriends (few that I had), and for the 2 "non-boyfriends" (different times of life) that I prayed about and cried over for years! (Don't judge... you all had at least one.)

Yadda, Yadda, Yadda, a hundred different situations in my life.

I am grateful that I NEEDED a job at the beginning of 2010, finally finding a 2-3 day a week babysitting job for 2 little kids. EASY-PEASY!

I am grateful that Brian "would not let me move" out of the apartment I wanted to move out of, as I met an amazing friend that has been such a solid support.

I am grateful for the stressful months of feeling like the surrogacy was never going to start.
I am grateful for the negative pregnancy test.
I am grateful for the realization this weekend that we could not do this financially in the amount of time that we have.
I am grateful for the 18 hours of pain after canceling the process for good (planning to revisit options when Brian got home and we could communicate within a 24 hour time frame).
I am grateful for the fear, stress, etc of telling a couple family members of our decision.


These are just the "BAD" things that I am grateful for! Haha! I will share the good stuff some other time, but I don't think I will ever be able to share everything. 

Don't worry. That is not the end. Through my phone calls, we were presented with a long term option, that we were going to think/pray/talk about. (So grateful for that offer! <3 )

We were then presented with a more immediate option (not sure on the details of sharing this information yet, so I will fill you in if I am able to).

After giving Caryn approximately 24 hours, to grasp the shock and freedom :-) of no longer going through with this, I then became grateful for the STRESS and FEAR of having to ASK Caryn to be a surrogate. Yes, I know it has been the plan all along, but it "was over". She said "Yes"! ( "I said wow...she said when... I said how about right now..." Sorry. Brad Paisley was singing in my head as I typed that last sentence. Had to share with you. Lol).

SO... in the end, we are right back where we started when you read Caryn's last post. However, I feel like it is a completely new process! There has been such a myriad of emotions, thoughts, and conversations since Monday. I feel rejuvenated and ready. I am reminded of the "village" that is with us through every step. I am more ready now then EVER for Brian and I to have a family.

Thank you all for your continued love, support, and prayers! Every one of you are so special to us.